Introduction To My Mess

I'm a bit new to the blogging circle...haven't done much talking online before (other than being a Facebook junkie...yes, I'll admit).  I'm more of a "live" talker.  If you are in front of me, then let's socialize.  I'm awkward, at best, when it comes to doing something like this.  I'm a VERY personal person and sometimes, it takes me a little bit to open up.  Well, here I am, opening up.  Don't worry though, I won't EXPLODE on you.  

For starters, I'll give you a little bit of info as to who I am.  My name is Brenda Caldwell.  I'm a 36 year old (fairly) newlywed, married to an incredibly sweet, caring and inspirational man named James.  In our family is our son Gabriel, our daughter Breanna and...not to exclude...our loving dog Ricky, our Nanday Conure Louie and Green Cheeked Conure named Stanley. PHEW!  What a lot to take in! Well, I'm a stay at home mother, wife, artist, baker, cook and craftswoman.  If I think I can do it...I'm gonna darn well try.

(I'm a freelance artist, by trade. I do have Facebook, Deviant Art and RedBubble pages for viewing and artwork for purchase: https://www.facebook.com/TheCordialArtist , http://thecordialartist.deviantart.com/ ,  http://www.redbubble.com/people/cordialartist )

I think that people forget to look at what's on the inside; view what's sometimes not always uttered in speech...love.  When my husband James and I first started dating, he was the complete OPPOSITE of who I had ever envisioned myself being with.  He was a "Joe" average type of guy; lived alone, had the same family and friends for the last 10 years, same job...etc.  But, we met and 7 years later (and a daughter), we're married and doing pretty well.  We have our moments, but then what relationship doesn't?  So, it goes to show that what we assume isn't always the truth.  Marriage?  That takes work.  You have to work for what you want.  Wedded bliss has to be achieved through hard work; love, compassion, commitment, honesty, trust and compromise.

Love is what it is...pure.  We can't assume we love someone but twist that into something it isn't just because we are angry or don't agree with another person.  That love is either there or it isn't.  For example, I ALWAYS tell my children I love them, no matter how angry I become at their behavior. I can't just hold my love against them (like a grudge) because I disapprove of something they've done.  To me, love shouldn't be used as a weapon.  That's just my personal belief.  

Even if someone doesn't always say the words that sound so sweet to your ears, doesn't mean they don't love you.  Remember all the wonderful things that person has done for you and what you do for them.  Take that in mind and hold it close, because it's those little moments that some people find insignificant that are sometimes the most important and dear. <3